How to introduce myself unawkwardly?

February 12, 2006 7:31 PM

DelicateSituationFilter: Help me introduce myself and get to date #1.

I hope this doesn't get too complex. There's a guy I'm interested in and know of from afar, it's a fair assumption that he's aware of my existence simply because the gay community at my college is close-knit and talky. I have a perfect opportunity to introduce myself to him tomorrow: I've recently begun training to be a campus tour guide and must shadow several tours, he's a current guide. It's my plan to go shadow his tour tomorrow morning, and in the process introduce myself.

The ultimate goal would be to get to a first date. I'm concerned about a combination of awkwardness and forwardness - I'm not convinced that it's the best way of doing things to just ask him to coffee some time after the tour, which is the best thing I can think of. Any advice to make this go more smoothly or less awkwardly?

posted by awesomebrad to human relations (11 comments total)

Nope, your idea sounds great. You just have to do it, which is the hard part. Good luck.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:32 PM on February 12, 2006 [2 favorites]

Confidence gets guys. Clarity is your friend. Magic words to live by: "Hey! You! Wanna go out on a date with me?"
posted by RJ Reynolds at 7:47 PM on February 12, 2006

Try the old joke comparing Dick Cheney's wang to the hi-ri-phy-sci-li. (Laughter is the best aphrodisiac.)
posted by rob511 at 8:29 PM on February 12, 2006

I'd vote for just shadowing his tour and leaving it alone for a day or two. After that, you can hit him up and say thanks, or asking him what he thinks about the job, or asking him for a cup of coffee. Without a doubt, introduce yourself tomorrow, but just as a matter of fact kind of thing... Hi, I'm here and I'm going to be another tour guide...

Good luck!
posted by jerryg99 at 8:39 PM on February 12, 2006

I'd go with jerryg99's advice. Easy peasy. Have fun and relax :)
posted by Radio7 at 9:18 PM on February 12, 2006

I read this post and thought you wanted advice on how to date mathowie.
posted by fochsenhirt at 9:22 PM on February 12, 2006

HA!
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 9:27 PM on February 12, 2006 [1 favorite]

Definitely use the tour as a way to make an impression, then if he noticed you and had been thinking about you afterwards you'll be able to tell at the next time you run into him and things might just flow more easily.
posted by Space Coyote at 1:09 AM on February 13, 2006

I like the coffee idea. It's neutral, gives you a chance to unwind after work, and lets you have some conversation with him. Use the omniscient facebook to determine if you have any common interests, and be sure to bring them up.

As an aside, I'm interested in transferring to your college, and I would greatly appreciate it if you'd email me (in profile), because I have specific questions, some regarding the gay community.

Good luck.
posted by matkline at 3:42 AM on February 13, 2006

Generally, if you're the type of person who worried about being too forward then you shouldn't worry about being too forward. So go ahead and be forward. If already knows you exist then the battle is half over. Now you just have to make it clear that you like him and let him take it from there.
posted by nixerman at 8:02 AM on February 13, 2006

How did it go?
posted by OmieWise at 12:49 PM on February 21, 2006