How to make a break in a long term relationship work?
February 11, 2006 2:29 PM Subscribe
My fiancee and I are taking a break after four years, how do I best make this break work?
posted by Loto to Human Relations (13 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My fiancee and I have been together for four years, and engaged for two (we were waiting till after college to get married.) For the past year or so, things have been downhill and today, finally, I found the nerve to actually talk to her about it. The short of it is that we rushed into things, and while we still want to be with other it would be best if we did some growing on our own. This is the first serious relationship for both of us, so dating other peope for the experience is appealing at this point. Basically, we need to grow up and be able to stand on our own and this is the only way we can do it.
There are no hard feelings, and we are actually closer (and happier) now than we have been in a long time. My question is what sort of experience have you had with taking a break after a long relationship, and how did you make it work? We are currently still going to date each other, but casually. We also live together, but do have our own rooms and beds (I know, straaaange.) No time to get back together has been set, so we agreed that when we both felt that we were ready to be with each other again that we would.
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