Is there an English word that means "object of my desires"?
September 14, 2017 7:56 AM   Subscribe

More specifically, is there a word that means "the person (or thing) that someone thinks about when they are masturbating."

Here are some examples showing how the word would be used. (I'm substituting grob for the word I'm looking for.)

Celebrities are very commonly used as grobs. A generation of American girls (and boys) grew up wanking off to images of Burt Reynolds.

Most of my grobs are former sexual partners, especially ones who I broke up with amicably. As a grob they'll do exactly what I want, exactly how I want it.

Do high school kids realize how often they appear as grobs for their classmates?

My new coworker has been the best grob ever! I go to be every night looking forward to extended fantasy play time with him.

Fetish is the closest word I can think of, but it has so many different meanings that it doesn't really make the point I'd want to make by using grob.
posted by Winnie the Proust to Writing & Language (20 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
 
"Fantasy object"?
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 8:00 AM on September 14 [1 favorite]


It's not quite right, but a related slang term is "spank bank"/"wank bank" (or "tank" instead of "bank").
posted by supercres at 8:02 AM on September 14 [4 favorites]


Definitely NOT fetish. I don't think there's a single word in English that is what you're looking for; the most recent vernacular that I know of is "spank bank material."
posted by tzikeh at 8:03 AM on September 14


Cathexis?
posted by vacapinta at 8:12 AM on September 14 [4 favorites]


I think you may have to create your own. Wankee. Fappee. Or twist the use of a word. First thing to mind: "thrall" (definitions: in the power of another, subject to a strong desire, or enslaved).

It could be used in numerous ways:
"My new coworker is the best thrall ever!"
"I need a new thrall - Betsy de Vos just doesn't do it for me anymore."
"I thralled my old high school biology teacher last night...."
posted by giraffeneckbattle at 8:16 AM on September 14 [2 favorites]


Masturbation fodder, material, or object will accomplish this.

Though "grob" is really growing on me.
posted by kapers at 8:34 AM on September 14 [15 favorites]


Yeah, I feel like the answer to this is definitely now "grob".
posted by corb at 9:23 AM on September 14 [18 favorites]


How many years I've waited for this moment: "Stroke Fodder" The name of one of my first bands.
posted by humboldt32 at 9:38 AM on September 14 [17 favorites]


I misread your substitute word as 'grab', which I really like for this usage:
1. Grab has no current use as a noun, so its re-appropriation here is minimally confusing.
2. The verb 'grab' has connotations amicable to your usage requirements, both mentally ('taking and holding' something/someone) and physically (grabbing yourself, so to speak).

So regardless of how this question resolves, I'm using 'grab' for this.
posted by smokysunday at 10:02 AM on September 14 [2 favorites]


I think that you could consider "fantasy object" to be a compound noun. So while there may not be a single word that fits, there is a single noun that does.
posted by SemiSalt at 10:37 AM on September 14


Desideratum (pl. desiderata) comes closest, maybe?
posted by Dr. Wu at 10:40 AM on September 14 [2 favorites]


In English, I've only ever heard "desideratum" used in a very academic context to mean "feature which a viable theory should have" -- I'd be surprised to see it used to mean "grob" except maybe as a very dry Humanities joke.
posted by nebulawindphone at 11:12 AM on September 14 [2 favorites]


inamorato/a?
posted by runincircles at 11:42 AM on September 14


succubus/incubus - bit of a stretch but definitely related
posted by diode at 11:58 AM on September 14


Taking a detour via the wonderful German "Wichsvorlage", I found this discussion which suggested "jack off material" (for people, not just mags & vids). A current search for "I'm jack off material" yields just three results, tho. 10 for "she's...", but many going to the same site.
posted by ClarissaWAM at 12:19 PM on September 14


Bate mate.
posted by pracowity at 1:25 PM on September 14


I feel sure there must be an entry for this in Roger's Profanisaurus but I'm fucked if I can work out how to find it.

Das Krapital might yield something useful. Even if you don't find what you're looking for, you'll enjoy the search.
posted by ZipRibbons at 12:34 AM on September 15


Thanks all. This is very interesting. It seems like the sort of thing there should be a word for, but I guess there's not. Or at least there wasn't, until now.
posted by Winnie the Proust at 8:27 AM on September 15


I'd think "jack-off material" was clear and sounded normal in the contexts you give — "used as jack-off material," "jack-off material for their classmates," etc. It's crude, definitely informal, and not the most gender-neutral phrasing (English-speakers apparently vary on whether they think people without penises can be said to "jack off"), but it gets the job done.

This is my most favorite editorial opinion I have given all day. Thank you for being more interesting than style guidelines for software documentation.
posted by nebulawindphone at 9:15 AM on September 15 [1 favorite]


Fap fuel?
posted by Halloween Jack at 11:08 AM on September 21


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