January 7, 2006 7:38 PM Subscribe
I messed up. Roommate, girl, me. Things go boom.
posted by anonymous to human relations (30 answers total)
J and I live in New York. S lives in Boston.
J and S never officially went out, but over the course of the year he went to visit her a half-dozen times. In discussion with me he became less and less enthusiastic about her. I had a crush - which seemed to be reciprocated, we always had crazy spark - but let it lie there.
They hadn't seen each other in a few months when S gets in touch with me. We're emailing back and forth for a while. Make plans to see each other. J calls S for the first time in months. S and I decide, yeah, we should tell him.
J is cool with it at first. Week later changes his mind, is hurt and jealous, asks us to stop.
So I'm a dick, yes. Still, what to do? Could we really stop? Is there a middle ground where we can still explore? We don't know each other well enough yet to be in love, but the possibility is definitely there. And they were never that serious ... but he is hurting, and he's my friend.