Speed dating in NYC - yay/nay?
August 30, 2016 3:22 AM   Subscribe

How does it compare to online dating in NYC for women? Can you recommend specific events?

Early 30s NYC lady. I "test better" in person than online. After a few years here, I've dated someone from just about every group I'm involved with and many friends of friends. This has been great at soothing the massive ego crush that has been online dating here, from which I landed maybe 2 dates for 100 messages. So I've decided to play to my strengths. However, I'm now out of groups and friends. I'm not opposed to getting involved in more activities, going to new events, random parties, etc., and I do this, but sometimes I feel like I'm doing a weird predatory thing where I'm scoping all the dudes in the crowd and checking for rings instead of just enjoying the moment. I need to meet way more people, and way more single people. So speed dating?
posted by unannihilated to Human Relations (1 answer total)

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I could have written this being an early 30s single (going on 4 years now) woman in NY and I feel you so hard re: feeling predatory when checking out events to scope dudes. I'm also kind of an introvert, and investing lots of time in a group hobby with the hope that I might maybe meet someone is not something I'm into.

I sadly have zero recommendations for you. I went on a speed dating thing once and it was pretty funny and totally bad. There was the One Hot Girl there, and that's who every (admittedly mediocre) dude picked. Shocker.

Maybe we should become friends and introduce each other to our friend groups and date there. Although everyone in my friend group is married and/or gay, so that probably won't help much :)

Anyway, I feel you--good luck!
posted by greta simone at 12:50 PM on August 30, 2016 [1 favorite]


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