All my queerfolk ain't ... wait, no.

February 19, 2016 2:24 PM

I'm looking for concise quotes that suggest or outright state that members of a marginalized group don't necessarily agree or have the same priorities on matters of culture, politics, religion, fighting oppression, etc. Zora Neale Hurston's "all my skinfolk ain't kinfolk" is a perfect example. References to the LGBTQ community and/or witty aphorisms are particularly welcome!
posted by zebra to Writing & Language (6 answers total)

R Crumb once said that the next step after shared ideals is warring factions. Kinda fits?
posted by Ursula Hitler at 2:56 PM on February 19, 2016

I know this isn't exactly what you're looking for, but I have heard a saying along the lines of, "Just because you're blood doesn't mean you're family."
posted by BusyBusyBusy at 6:33 PM on February 19, 2016

This is not a real thing, just a thing I'm making up right now, but I feel like flipping that classic saying around would be a good fit for this meaning in the LGBTQ context... "Just because you're family doesn't mean you're blood."
posted by snorkmaiden at 9:13 PM on February 19, 2016

"Two Jews, three opinions" is a pretty widespread acknowledgement that on pretty much any subject, Judaism isn't a monolith.
posted by Mchelly at 6:22 PM on February 20, 2016 [2 favorites]

How serendipitous, just came across this one on a list of Audre Lorde quotes posted in celebration of her birthday* the other day!

"The oppression of women knows no racial nor ethnic boundaries, true, but that does not mean it is identical within those boundaries."

*It's February 18th, and she would've been 80 this year, for those of you idly wondering but unwilling to open another tab.
posted by Devika at 1:22 AM on February 21, 2016 [1 favorite]

The only thing I have been able to come up with is those "not all" hash tags/comments (like #NotAllMen). It is usually used as a defense against sweeping generalization rather than a more generic statement in its own right. I am not sure that exactly fits what you are looking for (and I am only posting it because you aren't getting a lot of replies).
posted by Michele in California at 12:39 PM on February 21, 2016