Passive Aggressive, or Not?
December 13, 2005 10:51 AM Subscribe
Please help me identify and address a specific negative workplace behavior. Is this person being passive aggressive?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (28 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
There is an individual I work with that is making things a little difficult for me. I would like to find ways to deal with them constructively, so I want to find some resources - so I'd like to make sure I'm identifying the behaviour properly. At first glance, I'm sort of tempted to say it's passive aggressiveness, but some initial googling is indicating that maybe it isn't (it's not really saying they'll do something, and then not doing it, or breaking rules if they don't get their way). Maybe this person is just being a non-defineable sort of jerk?
Example: I post dates and times for two workshops, and I accidentally post the wrong location for one. This person notices the error and lets me know. I make the correction, thank them for pointing it out. Then for the next meetings that are scheduled, the person calls me each time to "make sure the location is the one that's actually posted", "ooookkkkkk, just wanted to be sure I wasn't going to the wrong place".
Example: Instead of simply asking me to make a correction to something written about their role (before it was published), tells me the role title is incorrect, saying "someone must have changed it". Knowing that I'm the only person that has edited it.
There are others, but these are the examples that are really grating on me lately. I'd like to deal with this person in a way that will ideally get them to be more direct and less backhanded - less ideally, help me stop being bothered by this attitude.
If this is passive aggressiveness, any good resources that people would recommend for dealing with this behaviour would be welcome as well (google's been a bit hit and miss). If it's not passive aggressiveness per se, but people can relate some similar war stories with a successful outcome, that would also be great.