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December 9, 2015 3:13 PM Subscribe
Do I tip the funeral director?
I've never had to plan a funeral until this week. Luckily, mom had a pre-paid plan, so most of the headaches were already covered. But, I do have this one question...Do you tip the funeral director?
I don't know why I would even think I am expected to tip, but I keep getting a vibe that it might be customary. Of course, the issue is that I don't have any money with which to tip and, even if I did, wtf would be an appropriate amount? We've spent several thousands already.
So..tip? No tip?
I've never had to plan a funeral until this week. Luckily, mom had a pre-paid plan, so most of the headaches were already covered. But, I do have this one question...Do you tip the funeral director?
I don't know why I would even think I am expected to tip, but I keep getting a vibe that it might be customary. Of course, the issue is that I don't have any money with which to tip and, even if I did, wtf would be an appropriate amount? We've spent several thousands already.
So..tip? No tip?
Best answer: I'd say no tip, based on several funerals in my own family. But for a definitive answer, contact coldchef, he's a funeral director.
posted by easily confused at 3:18 PM on December 9, 2015 [2 favorites]
posted by easily confused at 3:18 PM on December 9, 2015 [2 favorites]
Altar boys at a funeral mass get tipped, people who are hired to conduct the service or handle the music get paid.
posted by readery at 3:45 PM on December 9, 2015
posted by readery at 3:45 PM on December 9, 2015
Best answer: Tip the minister and any musicians, but it is not customary to tip a funeral director.
posted by ColdChef at 3:58 PM on December 9, 2015 [25 favorites]
posted by ColdChef at 3:58 PM on December 9, 2015 [25 favorites]
Response by poster: But for a definitive answer, contact coldchef, he's a funeral director.
Duly advised, I MeMailed CF, and he got right back to me.
Thanks, all!
posted by Thorzdad at 4:04 PM on December 9, 2015 [2 favorites]
Duly advised, I MeMailed CF, and he got right back to me.
Thanks, all!
posted by Thorzdad at 4:04 PM on December 9, 2015 [2 favorites]
Send a complimentary letter if you're happy with the way the service was conducted.
I'm sorry for your loss.
posted by brujita at 5:40 PM on December 9, 2015
I'm sorry for your loss.
posted by brujita at 5:40 PM on December 9, 2015
Agreed; send a thank you note/card. "Thank you for your efforts to support us in this difficult time. _______ went very smoothly, and as a result we were able to pay our respects without the additional stress of planning. [etc.]"
Assuming things went well, you could tip with some referral business in the event someone says to you "_____ just died and I don't know where to start with all that needs doing."
posted by Sunburnt at 11:02 PM on December 9, 2015
Assuming things went well, you could tip with some referral business in the event someone says to you "_____ just died and I don't know where to start with all that needs doing."
posted by Sunburnt at 11:02 PM on December 9, 2015
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
posted by Kangaroo at 3:17 PM on December 9, 2015 [1 favorite]