You secretly hate me, don't you?
December 8, 2005 5:00 PM Subscribe
How do I get over my shame at not staying in touch?
posted by anonymous to human relations (21 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I was friends with a number of people in college. When I moved to New York after I graduated, a lot of them moved here too. But I'm not friends with any of them anymore, partially because I'm bad at staying in touch with people and partially (I think) because they didn't want to stay in touch anymore. I know the second is the case, because I ran into a few and--it was clear. This was all four or five years ago. I don't really know anyone from growing up, because we moved alot.
I have other friends now, people who I like alot. And I have an SO, and I am very busy, so it isn't that I'm lonely. Plus, I'm pretty different than I was then. But everytime I think of this situation, I feel like I am a bad person. And when I do make friends with people, I feel like I am just waiting for them to discover they really hate me. And I wonder whether I wasted what is the best time to make friends.
Other than this, things in my life are great. But it's driving me nuts. So what would you do, other than go to a therapist which isn't possible for lots of reasons.