Help me relate to my parents
November 29, 2005 8:48 AM Subscribe
I would like a meaningful, non-awkward relationship with my parents. What can I do to cultivate this? Am I just in an awkward stage that I/we will outgrow? How can I better relate to them and appreciate them? What the heck do adult children talk about with their parents?
posted by unknowncommand to human relations (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I am 29, and I am newly a "real adult" (living and earning entirely independently of my parents, after long bouts with education and its close companion, poverty). I moved away to "the big city", and enjoy all of the events/activities that entails.
My parents have more or less retired, and have no hobbies (I don't count watching tv as a hobby, exactly). They are not offensive; they don't judge me; they are not annoying or controlling. It just feels like they're non-entities. We have nothing in common, and therefore nothing much to talk about, and I'm worried that this will continue to be a problem (unless I have children). Additionally, my mother is getting more forgetful, and seems noticeably less sharp than before. This doesn't help with my ability to relate or converse. Holiday gatherings are driving me insane.
We used to have a perfectly comfortable relationship, but seem to be drifting apart, and I can't figure out how to fix this. Lend me your advice and experience (yes, I have already tried drinking heavily at family gatherings)!