How Do I Leave a Job Without Quite Leaving Yet?
September 4, 2014 12:44 PM Subscribe
I have a new temp-to-perm position, but my boss is a total nightmare! I called the agency that employs me and told them I want to quietly, slowly look at other options. Apparently, this triggers some automatic process wherein the agency calls the hiring director at my job and tells her I'll be leaving and that the company can keep me on as a temp worker until they hire someone new or that they can terminate my contract immediately. This is happening more quickly than I expected! How do I slow it down?
posted by pineappleheart to Work & Money (11 answers total)
I wanted this Executive Assistant job to work out and have put my all into it. I answer emails at midnight and when I'm on vacation, maintain the office and my boss's calendar diligently, and have established good working relationships with everyone else in my office. However, my boss went through a string of five assistants prior to hiring me. Each one lasted one month before being let go. I've lasted three. I'm proud that I've made it this long, but I don't want to work for this guy! Had I known more about him, I would've taken one of the other jobs offered to me around the same time. He's a total dick who has something personal and shitty to say to me every day ; I'm told he's driven several people from the company and is known in the industry as a tremendous asshole, which does not surprise me. Last month, someone from another branch of our company approached me in the coffee room, clasped my hand, and said seriously, "We're all praying for you." I've had some truly terrible bosses in the past several years (as my question history attests) and am trying to leave that part of my work life behind so I'm not in therapy until I'm 100. Part of it is probably me (I don't know what I'm doing wrong but I'm the common factor! I am seriously in lots of therapy about this, but no one can tell me what I'm doing to enrage these male bosses); most of it is blind bad luck and the fact that the majority of CEOs are shitsticks.
I called the agency that placed me here to be like, "Hey, so, I'm not sure this is the best fit and that I can work productively with this particular CEO, etc., etc. Just wondering: What would the next steps be if I wanted to keep looking?" and they were like, "Cool, we'll call HR and tell them you're leaving and that they can keep you on until they find something else or not." I was like, "No, no, wait, I'm not ready," and they were like, "This is the automatic process. You're not happy, we have to replace you. Our loyalty is to the client. Deal with it." I really like and respect the head of HR and asked if I could talk to her before they emailed her, and they said they'd wait a few days.
I'd planned to keep this job for a few months while looking around for a better situation. What are the magic words I can use with the agency to make them slow this process down? I really need the paycheck. Should I just accept that since I don't want to work here permanently, I need to honor the agency's need to replace me ASAP in order to maintain a good relationship with their client? I see I made a mistake in approaching the agency, but they're pretty great and I was hoping they could place me elsewhere. Am I looking a jobhorse in the mouth by leaving this shitty environment when I've been unemployed for a while, and should I just call the agency back and be like, "JK. I'm good. Let's stick this one out?" Should I be glad to get the heck away, leave right now, and keep striving towards my dream of working for a boss who is only mildly grumpy, or does that not exist? Am I delusional? My self-esteem is pretty low thanks to this job stuff and I feel like my decision-maker is broken.
I'm so confused and need AskMe wisdom.