How to fit in with your classmates when you'd rather be independent
September 1, 2014 8:32 AM Subscribe
My program seems really social. I'm not really a bubbly social person, and I enjoy solitude. How can I still fit in with the group while preserving my precious, precious alone time?
My program only has 13 people in it and all of us are in at least the 2 core courses together, if not more. All of our classes are in the same building as are the computer labs with the programs we need for some of our production courses. So, we will be spending a lot of time together and are expected to collaborate a lot (group projects, extracurricular activities, etc. . .)
My undergrad program was similar, there were less than 10 of us in the program, we had all courses together, and also were always in the same building outside of class due to needing to use the computer programs specific to that course, as well as spending hours in the practice rooms (I was in music) which were also in that building. I had mental health problems in my undergrad....but I was also unhappy due to this environment, which felt suffocating to me. ( I know I'm being a bit of a princess here. . . what I'm trying to say is that I feel more capable, more confident, more daring, more focused, when I am by myself)
There seems to be an expectation in the program that we will all become close friends very quickly. It seems like it's going to be a very social environment. But something inside of me is saying, "no!! I don't want to be tied down to these people!"
In my 3 years since undergrad I've learned a lot about myself as an adult...I enjoy luxuriating in solitude... I accomplish more when I work alone.... and I don't like having all my friends in one place or one group. I have more courage when I am by myself.
How do I take advantage of this opportunity to collaborate with people in my field while also preserving my ability to be my best self, which is my self when I am alone? How do I avoid seeming like that snobby, unfriendly one in the group? And how can I look at this in a more positive way?