Should I move?
August 23, 2014 7:16 AM Subscribe
Should I move from the small city where I work to the bigger and more exciting nearby city when my lease is up in two months?
posted by Henrietta Stackpole to Society & Culture (23 answers total)
I am a woman in my mid-twenties. About ten months ago, I moved for work to Small City. I’ve never lived in this part of the country before. My job is located in Small City, however most of my colleagues live in Big City, which is about 40 minutes away. Now I’m considering whether I should move to Big City as well.
-I really love my job, and have no interest in quitting or in moving to another office.
-The only way to commute from Big City to Small City is by car. A commuter train exists, but I need to have access to a car during the day for my job. Right now I leave my car at home and walk to work; if I moved I would need to commute by driving.
Cons of moving:
-The expense. The cost of living is higher in Big City, and I really dislike living with roommates, so I would end up paying more for a smaller place. Also I would have to pay for parking near my work, and gas for commuting.
-I feel like I only just moved here, and don’t really want to uproot myself again. The thought of hunting for apartments and moving all my stuff is exhausting.
-Also I love my apartment here. It is a truly great apartment, which I could never afford in Big City.
-I only learned to drive a year ago, and am not a very confident driver. Also sometimes I experience back pain when I drive too much-- don’t know if this is because of the seats in my car or because I am too tense when driving
-The commute would take more time out of my day. It’s a 40 minute drive, but is often longer due to traffic. Right now it takes me between 5 and 10 minutes to walk home.
-I feel a sentimental attachment to living in the community I work in.
-There are things I like about Small City. It has some nice art galleries and restaurants, and I feel like it is just on the edge of becoming trendy at some point within the next decade. However, right now it is kind of run-down. ButI think that if I tried harder I could learn to really appreciate Small City.
-I am a pretty solitary person and spend most of my evenings reading or watching movies, activities which I can do equally well in either city.
Pros of moving:
-I have not had that much success making friends here. My one good friend in the area lives in Big City. My colleagues, who I’m pretty friendly with, also mostly live in Big City. When I look for activities, or meetup groups, or clubs that I might be interested in, they are almost all in the area of Big City.
-I like Big City much more than Small City. Big City has more interesting shops, more fun neighborhoods, more theater, better restaurants, more parks, more cultural diversity, more things to do. I have lived in cities like Big City all my life, until recently.
-It is a bit difficult getting from Small City to Big City to do things on the weekends. The commuter train runs only once every two hours, and stops at 11 pm. I can drive, but then I have to find parking, and also I can’t drink alcohol. If I take the train I have to plan out my day carefully, and leave by 11. I do find both these limitations to be annoying.
-Contradicting one of my points above, I like the idea of having some physical separation between my work and my personal life. My work is very demanding, both mentally and emotionally, and it’s hard to stop thinking about it when I go home. Also, sometimes I avoid doing things in Small City out of fear that I will run into clients.
-I often feel that there are fun things in Big City that I’m not doing because I don’t even know about them-- it would be easier to just do things if I lived there, I would not always have to plan everything out.
So, I’m divided. Honestly, I’m leaning more towards not moving, but that may just be my tendency to go with the status quo. Let me know what you think.