Care to play Cyrano?
August 20, 2014 11:13 AM Subscribe
A dear friend is very anxious about writing someone who once declared his love yet who now ignores her. What might be the proper etiquette here?
posted by R2WeTwo to Writing & Language (57 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Many years ago in college, while she was with someone, a mutual acquaintance casually mentioned one day, "You know, I've always had a huge crush on you." She was so shocked that she doesn't recall how she responded. They moved to different parts of the country soon after without ever having another chance to speak and she's thought of him many times over the year.
Fast forward to three months ago when she found him on facebook and and sent a brief note, which he ignored. He's single and facebook indicated he received it so she's naturally wondering what might be going on for him. It wouldn't be like her to say something hurtful after his declaration but she's even considering hypnosis to find out! We friends are encouraging her to tell him how she feels but she's terrified of appearing to be "a stalker." We think that his heartfelt statement forever exempts her from this possibility. She seems to have decided to write again but she's having trouble putting her feelings down. Would you write a second time and, if so, what might you actually say?