Weekend guest etiquette - am I right to be upset?
August 18, 2014 6:04 PM Subscribe
I recently had two very close friends to stay for the weekend. My partner and I put a load of effort into tidying and cleaning the house, buying new towels for our guests, filling the cupboards and fridge with yummy (and expensive!) food, and my partner spent hours cooking. I had a nice, though tiring, weekend (with some awkwardness as we have all changed over the years since we were very, very close) but when the guests had left, my partner pointed out that neither of them had brought a gift (I would never expect something huge, but I don't think I ever don't take a bottle of wine/flowers/chocolates if I go to stay with someone..). We also realised that neither of them had offered to (or taken it upon themselves) to help with the washing up after any of the homemade meals we had - even breakfast!
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (64 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Does this seem rude to you? In my partner's culture and family, it definitely is, and he's quite offended. I'm trying to make excuses for them in my head, but I can't help but feel a bit put out and underappreciated.. I'm someone who tends to be very demonstrative when I am grateful, and think of myself as quite generous. It also didn't help that one of them frequently makes snobby comments about the region of the country I live in (and was born in)!
Is there anything I can do to improve how I feel about the situation?