really some sort of American Idol for jobs would be ideal
August 14, 2014 2:58 PM Subscribe
I need a career change. I just don't know what to. How does one go about finding this out?
posted by dekathelon to Work & Money (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm tired of not having a job. I went on Wikipedia looking things up today and fucking Lynndie England has a job (seriously, look it up). I am tired of living in a world where someone who participated in the goddamned Abu Ghraib scandal is seen as more worthy of making money and contributing to society than I am. I am tired of the cycle of potential bosses reaching out to me, telling me they love my work and would love to have me on board, interviewing me multiple times, sometimes even saying they aren't interviewing anyone else, and then disappearing into the ether without even sending me an email telling what's going on. It is emotionally draining, and it is financially draining. People still tell me they like my work, all the time, but it has gotten to the point where I hear something like this and my immediate reaction will be "fuck you." It's an empty sentiment. It does not contribute to my having a job, and I don't want to hear it. If I was such a good worker you would think at least one person would care enough to un-stall my career. I have literally considered responding to these people telling them not to compliment my work anymore, but i don't think there's any way to say that and have it go over well.
That's part one. Part two is that (to make a long story very story) my father, who was abusive growing up and who likely has some sort of undiagnosed mental illness, has apparently said he will pay for me to go back to graduate school. I heard this from my mother, who now works for him again (because she couldn't find a job either - literally her only option was going to work for the man who left her). I don't put much stock into this. For one, he has a long history of promising and not delivering - I was relieved when I got my first job with benefits because I was tired of suddenly becoming uninsured when he decided he was mad at us and dropped us from his health insurance, which happened at least five separate times in high school and college. He also has an equally long history of bribing people into his good graces, even if it drives a wedge between them and the rest of the family. (He paid for most of my sister's wedding and I don't think my mother has ever forgiven her for it. Then they fell out again.) However, there is no way
But there are a number of problems:
- I'm 26. I'm already out of the running for entry-level jobs, which by and large want 22-year-olds out of college and/or people without a work history to speak of.
- I don't know what I want to do. The only things I think I would be suited for are even worse, job market-wise. The only criteria I can think of is that there would have to be as certain a chance as possible that I would find employment afterward, that the employment I would find would pay well and be somewhat respectable/prestigious/suitable for a career/something I could be proud of doing, and that the employment I would find would be suitable for people who do not operate well when office politics determine whether you get and keep a job. I don't know where those exist anymore, if they even do. And if they do, I don't know whether they'd want me. I literally have no idea where to even start to think about this. I just know that I want to be a success.
That's one question -- how do I even go about doing this? The other problem is that I don't want to change careers. I want to be the most successful person in my field. I want to run a major company in it eventually, and change things for the better and help out people in my position. But I don't think my field wants me to be the most successful person in it. I don't think it wants me in it at all. I think it would prefer if I just dropped dead. How do you cope with the feelings of failure?