relationship problems rising from facebook
August 13, 2014 11:51 PM Subscribe
I have been with my girlfriend since 5 months ago. Since the beginning we became friends on facebook. I love and trust her and have not seen anything suspicious from her. The only thing that got me a little worried was that on two occasions she told me that she kind of still cared about her ex boyfriend who she broke up with two years ago. When she saw that I got offended she told me that I do not need to worry because the feeling she has for him, is like a mother-child feeling.
posted by mbn1455 to Human Relations (32 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Anyways from the beginning of our relationship she was able to see everything on my FB profile including my friends list. She on the other-had has hidden her friend list. Initially I did not care at all. I felt that its just very stupid to occupy myself with such a stupid matter. I have told her in few occasions about it and so far she disregarded it. Couple of days ago I asked her explicitly again to open her friend list on me. I specially asked if she still is friends with her ex on FB and she said no. I am not really sure why I got sensitive over this. I dont even know why I am sensitive about this. In the beginning I thought thinking about this was childish and stupid, but as time went on and she evaded my request to open up her friend list I started to wonder why? Its just that I think to myself if she asked me such a thing I would have done it immediately. I do not really know how I should feel about it. I do not have any theory in my head as to why she does not like to open her friend list on me. I am 36 and she is 31. In the beginning I told her that I should be able to make my decision about marriage in about 8 months. My goal is to know her as much as possible within 8 months and 5 months has already past. Do you think these small things are considered a kind of red flag? How do you think I should address this problem. Should I work on myself and try to not think about it? Should I ask her again? I already asked her twice and obviously she is not interested to open her friend list up.