How to help someone who is on a downward spiral?
August 11, 2014 9:48 AM Subscribe
My brother has been on a downward spiral for many months now. I would like to help him, but don't know how.
He has always had difficulty controlling his emotions (quick to anger, sad at one moment, very cheerful the next) and shows signs of ADHD. He got fired from his job due to constant lateness and poor work ethic. He spends money quickly, but always finds someone to lend him a few bucks and is thousands of dollars in debt to both financial institutions and friends/acquaintances/family. I'm not sure what exactly his housing situation is - he was recently evicted and has a tendency to move in with one woman after another. He parties hard even though he has liver damage and is now doing drugs of a caliber that worry me. He doesn't self-harm and I don't think he's suicidal now, but he has been at least once in the past. He's in a weird situation in terms of health coverage, and it's very difficult to convince him to ever see a doctor, anyway.
I know I cannot force an adult to do anything they don't want to do. I've read previous threads and searched online for help on this. Most advice boils down to: support him. How exactly can I do this? Difficulty level: He lives in another city and doesn't have a cellphone.