Bibliotherapy for misandry?
August 6, 2014 4:52 AM Subscribe
Can you recommend novels, short stories or even biographies that might help me overcome my fear, distrust and occasional feelings of downright hatred towards men?
posted by anonymous to Media & Arts (25 answers total) 22 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a survivor of molestation, rape and abuse. I'm working on it in therapy. Finding my anger was a good thing, but it has recently started to stir up thoughts that I can only describe as misandry.
I need to keep reminding myself that there are lots of good men in the world, men that are good people, who treat women with respect and compassion.
Literature isn't always helping. I've recently had to put down several books I tried to read, because the sexism and misogyny of the characters - or the authors - felt incredibly triggering. (E.g., The Slap.)
I am looking for books with male characters who are not abusive, sexist or misogynistic. Male characters who are complex and vulnerable, who might have their issues but who treat women well. Male characters I feel safe with and feel I can like. Ideally, I'm looking for books written by men, authors who treat their female (and male) characters with understanding, as fully human. I'm looking for authors I can feel safe with. Who don't treat female characters as some kind of Other, or as fantasy fulfillment, or as objects.
Obviously, lots of female authors qualify, and those recommendations are welcome, too. But finding trustworthy male authors would feel very healing at this point.
Genre doesn't matter.
Explicit sexual content in itself is not triggering to me (unless its abusive), but in case there are other survivors interested in this thread, it may be worth mentioning.