How to be polite yet firm about not being informed via social media?
August 5, 2014 10:49 PM Subscribe
Family members relay FB status updates/news when I'm no longer on FB--it's good to be in the loop sometimes, but I dislike the delivery method. How can I reverse these types of communication patterns without giving the impression that I don't care?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (20 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I used to use Facebook and have quit successfully for two years now. I have no desire to get back on it, and I've done a pretty ok job keeping up with people who matter to me either through personal/face-to-face contact or email/letters/skype.
The problem is that my family members are mostly using FB. And since a lot of them have Apple devices, they also send me Messages. Some of the news they send is very important (regarding family emergencies, accidents, etc.) and it's mostly stuff they get from status updates from other relatives and friends we have in common. Other times its information that reminds me why I quit social media in the first place.
The worst thing is when these things pop up on my phone or computer while I'm trying to work and I find it difficult to regain my composure and concentration. I've already disabled push notifications and turned off the content previews, and I've also told my family members in clear and unambiguous ways that I don't want to receive news via SMS (the justification is always: 'we thought you should know'). Am I being unreasonable? What further steps can I take to further distance myself from social media without being asocial?
(If it helps, I'm abroad and geographically distant from my family members. I do call them once a week and feel like it's the best I can do while salvaging my sanity)
Thanks for any tips.