How do I deal with my adolescent son's burgeoning exercise obsession?
August 4, 2014 6:50 PM Subscribe
My almost 11 year old son has started developing what I fear is an obsession with exercise.
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Background:I am married, 3 kids (oldest is 16 yo boy and almost 11 yo boy/girl twins.) My oldest son and daughter, are similar, physically (they are both "fluffy" for lack of a better word.) They also look more alike, than my 11 yo son. The oldest likes to read, play video games & draw. My daughter likes to surf the net, play with her dolls, paint her nails. She was in dance from the ages of 3 to 7, then gymnastics from 7 to 10. Her twin brother has always liked some kind of sport, specifically,martial arts & gymnastics/parkour. He has focused mainly on the latter since he was 7 yo. He has always been my "picky eater". I used to fight with him to eat food (even the stuff I know he liked!) There have been few dinners where he'd excuse himself to use the bathroom and could be heard throwing up in the bathroom. He is going through a growth spurt because he tells me how hungry he is all the time. He has access to plenty of food. He is very critical of his siblings and their weight. My oldest is probably about 20 lbs over his ideal weight. My daughter is about 15 lbs over. My daughter and oldest son have the same large, heavy bone structure as my mother (who has always ranged from "big boned" to currently obese.) My son, in question, is smaller in stature, lean, lanky, athletic with a naturally high metabolism. I bought jump ropes for all of use since I was not going to be working this Summer, I wanted some activity we could all do together.
My husband and I overheard a particularly nasty argument between the twins this past weekend. He was telling her he wished she wasn't his sister. We called 11 yo son in to ask what was going on. He told us they (his sibs were picking on him) he had been lifting weights (my husband's) while they were all watching tv together and they complained. He complained that his twin sister was supposed to be working out with him, she'd done a few reps and said her arms hurt. It upset him. My husband and I have found him jumping rope (day and night while watching tv too many times to count) since I bought the jump ropes about a month ago. He confessed that he is concerned about becoming "fat", like his sibs. We explained to him how he is physically different from his sibs. We thought we had an understanding with him. We the. Talked to our other kids separate from the 11 yo son. They explained they were concerned about their brother's new obsession with exercise. They told us that their brother will eat yogurt (or anything) and say that was x number calories and start exercising. They seem genuinely worried about him and tried to express that to him and he got defensive. Please tell me how to help my son with this. He tends to be on the "high"'anxiety side. He is generally a sweet, very smart, fun kid. All
Input is appreciated. Thanks.