How to unindoctrinate an indoctrinated child?
August 1, 2014 3:15 PM Subscribe
I know this is heavy stuff, but my seven year old daughter has lived with her very dogmatic grandparents within a very dogmatic culture for the past two years or so. She tried to evangelize me tonight and now I see the extent of the damage that's been done to her young mind.
posted by Cybria to Human Relations (24 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
So I live in a west African country where Christianity proliferates just about every part of life in the southern part of the country. I came to live here last year to be reunited with my daughter, who has been living here with her grandparents (my ex husband's parents) for the past couple years. I was very ill and they were taking care of her while I made a recovery. While I'm glad she has had a nurturing upbringing for the most part, I wasn't unaware of the fact that she was being raised in a christian home. Which isn't a problem in itself, but this particular brand of Christianity frowns on critical thinking, is very rooted in tradition (to the point of shunning progress), and hold very restricting tenants like "No nail polish" and "no secular music." I revealed to my daughter tonight that I'm no longer a Christian (I deconverted years ago), and she proceeded to tell me why I should be, in a way that an adult evangelist would. It was frightening to me as a mother. I'm an agnostic, and I know how dogmatic and anti-progressive Christians in this part of the world can be. I also know how traumatic it can be to realize that your entire worldview is wrong. I want to take her home asap and get her out of this environment. But is there any way I can help to get some of these ideas out of her head without scarring her for life?