addicted to giving away money
July 31, 2014 5:35 AM Subscribe
This is my first ever question on metafilter, and it probably sounds absurd. I recently got a relatively-high-paying job away from home, and I'm only 23. Maybe it's because I'm lonely, but only time I feel good about myself or feel like I'm worth anything is when I help others.
posted by Ain to Human Relations (27 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
A few months ago, I had a surplus of several thousand dollars. At this point, I've lent/spent/given so much away that I barely have anything. I'm not in danger of going under, but I worked myself half to death last week to scrounge up extra cash for a friend who was in danger of getting evicted by no fault of her own. She didn't even ask -- I offered, and I've never done anything like that for her before.
People keep telling me this is a dangerous path to stay on and I understand where they're coming from. But I feel so guilty about not helping friends out of tight spots, and it feels wrong in my gut when I have more than I need and keep it when others are struggling.