Am grown woman, need to look the part
July 30, 2014 12:02 PM Subscribe
So I am about to embark on a new phase in life, one outside of academia (most likely) and am done having kids, and thus, need to finally get some clothes and other stuff (shoes, bras) to help my look transition as well. The problems? I like the clothes I get to wear now and I HATE shopping. So I need suggestions as to where to go and what to buy! Help please!
posted by katers890 to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion (24 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
So I am a woman in my mid thirties, about 5'8" and a bit overweight (wear a medium/large top depending on the sizing and a 12-14 size pant, again depending on sizing). I've got a long torso, normal shoulders (not too broad but not narrow either), and a small head (teeny tiny, I can almost wear my 2 and 5 year olds hats). I also have long, narrow feet and hate wearing heels. Right now I tend to wear shorts or a basic knee length khaki skirt and a solid colored t-shirt most days, and during the winter/fall that changes to jeans and long sleeved tshirts (again tend to be solid colored), though I have a couple ankle or calf length khaki skirts I wear too. I wear sandals (Keen ones, not nice dressy ones) or sneakers 95% of the time. I have a pair of knee high boots (with about a 1" heel) and a pair of black, I guess ankle?, boots with a similar heel height that I wear occasionally during the fall/winter.
While these outfits work for me now, I'm always at a loss of what to wear if I need to dress up, and certainly don't have appropriate clothes for job interviews (which I hope to have soon) or for work outside of academia. I do have a suit, but only one shirt that I can wear with it that would look right if I took off the suit jacket. I did actually try to look for shirts recently, but I have no clue what sort of things to look for or where I really should be shopping. I know I look terrible in button down shirts, something about my shoulder to head ratio or something, and I have ample enough thighs and bottom that skinny anything is out. I buy most of my clothes now from either Old Navy or Lands End or LL Bean, but those aren't good places for the sorts of clothes I need now. Where should I look? Where is the best bang for my buck? I can't handle going through every store in the mall hoping to find something, I'll go crazy. I also can't afford to spend tons (though I'd rather have something slightly nicer quality that lasts that a bunch of cheap stuff). Where do women in their mid thirties shop these days? It would be awesome if I had stuff I could wear with a suit and with more business causal times (if not actually causal times too).
Also, I probably should get better bras, but this is another one of those things I'm fairly clueless on. I know there are tons of bra posts here, and most say to go get a good fitting. But I hate underwire bras and refuse to wear them. I feel like most higher end places that do fittings except that you'd want underwire. Am I wrong?
Finally, shoes. What kind of shoes do I get to wear with grown up clothes? I really don't like wearing heels, what women's shoes should I look into? I tried a pair of ballet shoes and it may have just been those shoes, but they looked odd because my feet are so long and they rubbed weird on my toes and heel and on the boney protrusion I have under my ankle bone.
So, in sum, I suck at buying clothes that are good for work and will take any help or recommendations you want to give!