How deep is too deep?
July 29, 2014 6:36 AM Subscribe
Questions about deep throating, not sure if I'm going too far - NSFW.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (9 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I really enjoy giving my partner oral - as does he - and over time I've been getting better at taking him deeper. He's very well endowed (based on my experience anyway). The last while I've been doing it so I can feel his head right at the back of my throat, although I can only do it for short bursts at a time, moving back if I feel the gag reflex kicking in, and then going again when it settles down again. The gag has definitely been getting less over time. The other day I was doing it while he was standing in front of me. I was taking it really slowly and I kind of felt his head move past the back of my throat down my throat (not sure if that makes sense, sorry I don't know the names for the different parts!) It took me by surprise and I stopped, and my partner said he had felt my throat "open up". I tried it again and asked him not to thrust so I would feel in control of it and not choke, and I was able to do it again for a few seconds until I felt the gag kick in. I stopped again and we decided to leave it for a while, but we'd both like to do it again - he said it felt great and I really got off on how much it turned him on. Plus I like a challenge!
My questions are basically:
is this what deep throating actually is? I thought I was already doing it, but if now I can take it further then was I not really doing it right in the first place?
If not, is it taking his penis too far if its going past the part of your throat you can see? Will this cause any kind of damage? It sounds stupid but I'm afraid of "stretching" it too much.
If this is ok to do are there any techniques or things I should know to make it easier? I didn't find it physically sore or unpleasant but I'd prefer not to accidentally throw up. Does the gag reflex get weaker over time and is this a bad thing?
There's no pressure from him whatsoever so if I said I didn't want to take it that deep again he wouldn't mind, but he also wouldn't mind if it became a regular thing! There's no way I could ask my friends this so I appreciate any advice.