Let's say you go on a date with someone. The date goes well, you go back to their place. Things happen...SEX things. You realize afterward that it may have been a mistake. Yeah, definitely a mistake.
But now they are texting you to make plans again. Why wouldn't they! Things went well. You indicated it was going well.
And you may have said "sure, okay, plans!" because, why wouldn't you? Things went well. And maybe you have issues saying no to people, specifically people who were trusting enough to make themselves vulnerable to you in a sexing situation, after only one date. But now you're feeling dread. Because you know what, you weren't that into them and this was a mistake.
So you want to cancel. Well, great, now you're just a hump-and-dump asshole who leads people on. There is probably no way to avoid appearing as such to the other party. That said - is there a gentle, tactful, graceful way to engage in this unique kind of dumping?
I'd refer to Miko's breakup advice
but, ugh, isn't it a bit too soon for such a heavy "speech"? I mean, it's only been one date, we've spent a cumulative 5 hours together.