How do I "I do?"
July 25, 2014 9:28 AM Subscribe
My partner and I are having a wedding in two months. We'd like to get legally married before the ceremony, but can't decide what the best option for us would be. My partner is a man, but here in Ohio it isn't possible for him to change his birth certificate to match this. Do we go to another state to marry, or try to get a license in Ohio?
posted by dinofuzz to Law & Government (11 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
This issue is causing my partner a lot of stress, and the laws regarding marriage equality are in such a state of flux that I am pretty baffled. We would prefer to be able to get a license in Ohio, but my partner's birth certificate and (he thinks most likely) his social security information both have the incorrect sex. We are worried we won't be able to get a marriage license, or it will later be nullified.
Our other option is to get married in a state with marriage equality. As far as I'm aware there is still a stay
on the ruling that Ohio must recognize out of state same sex marriages, but we would still be recognized as married under federal law. I'm starting to think this might be the best option for us, but I know the idea can be triggering for my partner.
We would both really appreciate any advice you can give us. We just want to be happily married! If we do end up going to a state with marriage equality, do you have any recommendations in particular? In an ideal world we could apply for a license, pay our fee, and be married right there at the same time.