Deskilled in the mating game - what now?
July 23, 2014 10:23 AM Subscribe
I've lived like a nun bar the religion for almost 5 yrs (after a couple of very bad relationship choices) in supposedly my sexual peak. Yeah right. I've worked on myself but I'm still quite gun shy/lack confidence in my own judgement of others (men especially) and pretty much avoid that side of life.
So it came as a bit of a surprise when I found myself asking out my course trainer (just a one day thing) for a drink. He said yes :) .. which felt good but what the f happens now?
posted by tanktop to Human Relations (8 answers total)
We spoke for maybe half an hour in total and had vaguely met a year ago. When I left he said he looked forward to seeing me again. He seemed genuine/interesting/interested (?) and like quite the gent (I generally haven't gone for gents.. well just the fraudulent ones)..We both took each others numbers (kind of unsmoothly instigated by me as mobile can play up). He asked if he can call any time (is that weird or considerate!?) Also we live 200 miles away (my family live in his city). I told him this and he said he might be travelling the country in a week or so (for a week).. and didn't know where he would going. I said if he was near my town to let me know.
So now I've had all the comments from family about how "that would never work anyway" etc (lovely)... and have been reminded of the capacity for neurosis one can have in these scenarios .. yuck... he hasn't contacted me and I haven't him. We met two days ago. As a younger woman I was good at playing cool... used to wait 3/4 days but this was pre-text I'm kind of too old for such bullshit but also don't want to look "too" keen/am busy etc and know it's a delicate balance.
I did make the first move.. so it would kind of be nice if he came to me.. but maybe he won't.. should I wait it out or text? And as clinical as this sounds any wisecrack first text suggestions would be appreciated... he's a fireman and paramedic. He's Romanian so it can't be something that gets too lost in translation. I'm really blushing about writing this, but badly out of practice! Hope he doesn't visit the green haha