What's my name again?
July 23, 2014 12:21 AM Subscribe
I am a transgender individual who has been unable to come up with a name for myself. I have tried numerous names over multiple years and feel completely adrift when it comes to a named identity. What names fit my (pickypicky) criteria?
Ever get stumped on the first question on a test? Stumbled when introducing yourself? Pause uncomfortably too long when asked your name? Forget who you were? That's me. I need a name.
My given name is Kathryn; at work and with family I've always gone by Kathy. I have tried to come up with another name from that and failed. I have been trying out new names (using them with partners & close friends and in situations that don't require a "real" name) for several years but usually after seven months or so, no longer feel any connection to the name and stop liking it.
My ideal name is:
gender neutral/gender ambiguous
two syllables (or has an easy two syllable nickname)
is not co-opted from a culture I have no claim to (I'm American and of European descent)
sounds good with a single syllable last name (rhymes with gull and null)
is generationally appropriate for a late 20s/early 30s person (i.e. no Jayden/Kayden/Aiden/Bradens)
I don't care if it's a real name, a name from literature, scientific names, or made up.
I'm not interested in the very common generic male or female neutral names like Chris, Sam, Jessie/Jesse (I know too many folks with these names) or Kat/Cat (associated way more with women than men nowadays).