Bed sharing with a toddler
July 21, 2014 8:32 AM Subscribe
My wife has shared a bed with our toddler since she was born. I was never comfortable with it, and so I have spent a long 2 years on the couch. There is no end in sight and it's messing up our marriage. More below.
posted by mouseboy to Human Relations (45 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
When our daughter was born she was so small and fragile and I was afraid to sleep with them, for fear I would crush her. I support my wife in thinking that co-sleeping had benefits, but I just couldn't do it. Then later I didn't sleep with them because basically I got a lot less sleep, and I became less supportive of co-sleeping. Now I don't sleep with them because I am really uncomfortable about sleeping with a child in the bed, something about it just doesn't sit right with me. It's caused a lot of distance in our relationship, not to mention there is no intimacy occurring. It seems to be a pretty non-negotiable thing, and I am not making any headway in getting this to change. I feel less and less happy in my relationship because of it. I am tired of the couch. Of course there is more to it than that, there always is, but. . . .do I push harder to change this, or do I just live on the couch until something external comes a long, like maybe my daughter goes off to college, and changes things.