Thinking about moving
July 19, 2014 12:03 PM Subscribe
I am considering moving from where I live now (Madison, WI) for a number of reasons, but I don't know if it's the best idea right now, and I also have no clue where I should go.
I am a single 32 y/o female, no kids, one cat, on SSDI for being bipolar and also having anxiety and PTSD. Being on SSDI means I am super low income and poses some limitations on my freedom, though at least I am not tied to work or a relationship. (My family is all in Virginia.)
My biggest reason for wanting to move away is that my support system here has gradually eroded. I used to have so many friends here who I could call anytime for anything, but that has changed very much. Now, I have two very good friends left in town. However, one of them is leaving for grad school in a few months and the other is contemplating moving across the country. That means that my only support here would really be my therapist, who is amazing, but she is just one person, plus of course I don't see her socially. I have tried very hard to make other friends or at least friendly acquaintances, but things never seem to work out. Add to that that my past few years here have been totally fraught with trauma, and I am left feeling really vulnerable.
So, if I left, where would I go? Cost of living is a huge factor. I also need to live somewhere that has good state medical assistance and has mental healthcare that is accessible without too much hassle.I don't have a car, so I need to live somewhere that I can walk and use public transit. (I should mention that I would implode if I lived near my parents, so that is not an option.)I also love places that have a lot of local culture, indie bookstores and cafes, etc. and at least some good live music. Not required but would be nice is a strong literary community since I am a writer. Finally, since I am 32 and single, I'd prefer to live somewhere that had social options for people my age who don't have kids. Here in Madison, I feel like everything is either geared toward college kids or families, and that is part of why I have a hard time meeting anyone.
I think I covered all the bases here. If you are suggesting a bigger city, it would help if you could suggest a certain neighborhood. Also, feel free to address whether or not you think it's a good idea to move now, while I am quite fragile, or not.