Handling Professional Jealousy
July 17, 2014 9:02 AM Subscribe
I like my job, but have a friend who always seems to end up in my ideal employment situation. How can I get over being jealous and learn to be happy with what I do have?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (6 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
A friend and I both recently graduated from the same master's program. During the program, we both applied to the same competitive internship, and she was selected for it. I ended up with a different internship that I grew to enjoy, but was still pretty disappointed in not being selected for the first one. Now that we've graduated, I'm working in a job I like, with good coworkers and decent pay. The only downsides are I have a very long commute, and not much time off. My friend was recently hired for a job with great benefits, high pay, and tons of time off. I don't think I would like the job itself that much, but I can't stop thinking about how perfect the location and schedule of that job would be for me. It's unlikely I could get a similar job, since they're very competitive, and my friend had an "in" with the hiring board.
I do like my job most of the time, and know it's silly to keep obsessing over this, but I can't stop myself from thinking about how great it would be to have the job my friend has, and also feeling frustrated that things always seem so easy for her. I remind myself of the good things about my job (and that I'm lucky to have a job at all), but I can't shake nagging feelings of jealousy. How can I make myself appreciate what I have and get over this?