When you're the nth choice...
July 13, 2014 11:30 AM Subscribe
I had a date with someone I met online. I liked him. But I don't think my interest is reciprocal.
posted by dean_deen to Human Relations (21 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I'm a female who had a date with someone I met through OKC recently. I was surprised by how much I liked him, and we had a conversation that flowed nicely. He said that he enjoyed the date and gave me a hug at the end.
I texted him the next day saying I enjoyed it and asking him to let me know when he'd like to hang out next. He agreed and said we should see a movie or something. I also suggested we could do a bar (he gets off work late in the evenings, and I don't drink much, so I figured I'd make clear that I didn't mind just getting an appetizer). No reply.
Five days later, I sent him some silly message on OKC pretending to be a spammer. He responded, apologizing for not replying to my last message. He'd been "a bit busy" and suggested we do something this week.
I realize that he could have actually been busy, but his apology was a little too self-effacing; he probably had other dates. Which is fair enough. But since I've done most of the initiating here, should I even bother cementing plans to meet with him again? Would there be any benefit to doing so? My instinct is that there probably isn't, especially since our work schedules conflict and we live on opposite sides of town.