My girl friends feelings toward her ex
July 8, 2014 7:43 PM   Subscribe

I have been dating this girl for four months. I am confident that compared to all the girls I dated I liked and treated this one the best. I was intending to introduce her to my mom after four months of dating. Last night we went out to celebrate our fourth month of being together. When we were having dinner she suddenly started talking about her ex again. It happened before that she talked about him but any time she brought it up I acted neutral toward the subject and I considered it normal.

For example when in the beginning I asked her if it was hard for her to live in the city without having a car, she told me that her ex spoiled her and was taking her anywhere she wanted to go. Also at some point she told me that she was concerned about her ex because he was lonely and he gained a lot of weight. At that time I asked her how she knows that her ex is lonely. She replied to me that they have a mutual friend that she talks to quite frequently. At that time I though that she was honest and caring and it did not bother me that much. This also worth mentioning that she and her ex broke up two years ago and they were together for 5 years. Needless to say I was doing the same during the past 4 months.

Going back to last night, she told me that she met this mutual friend again and she showed her a lot of pictures of her ex and his new girl friend. She told me that her ex gained even more weights. She also said that when she started dating him 8 years ago he was as fit as me. I did not have anything to add to this conversation and tried to change the subject. I noticed that she got a little uncomfortable so I went back to her ex subject and asked her if by looking at the pics she thinks that her ex and his new girl friend look good together (this was a stupid question I know I don't even know why I asked) She replied back that she did not think so because she looked very shy and naive and did not look like a kind of person who can stand in front of her exe's family. At this point I got jealous and uncomfortable and kind of shot down. My girl friend got really uncomfortable and admitted that this was not a good conversation. She told me that she considered me as her close friend who she can talk to about anything. I told her what if I did the same thing to her. She replied that she would be really offended. She also added that I do not need to worry because the feeling she has toward him is a feeling of a mother toward her child. I told her that still is a very deep feeling. She replied back that she did not have a child and she does not know how that feeling is. I feel she is an smart girl and she just did not feel to give any answer to my question.

Never the less I told her I just need some time and I get over it. Needless to say none of us were able to finish the dinner and we left the restaurant. When I was dropping her off I wanted to talk to her in the car for few minutes. I made a mistake of looking at my watch and she got so offended that she left the car even though I apologized and asked her to stay for few more minutes. She told me that I ruined her night which supposed to be a romantic night together.

Today I was thinking that probably her interest level in me is much less than my interest level in her. It happened before that my ex girl friends talked about their exes and I got a little offended but we always talked about it and it was not such a big issue. The fact that she was complaining about me ruining her Saturday night when I did not do anything except for shutting down because I was offended shows that she does not even care about me. What do you guys think about this ? For those of you who check my previous questions, this is the same girl I asked about in my previous question. Thank you so much for all your answers in advance.
posted by mbn1455 to Human Relations

This post was deleted for the following reason: There is not really a question to be answered here -- mathowie

 
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