Does anyone have advice for adopting inside the family?
July 8, 2014 7:04 AM Subscribe
Right now, there is a chance that my husband and I may be the adopters of my niece's child. She and the father have drug addictions and have surrended their parental rights. The child is now living with her grandparents, but they are very stressed by the situation and might ask us to take her. We are ready to do so, but I'd like to know what we're getting into.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (10 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
The girl was neglected but not abused, as far as we know, during the 9 months she lived with her mother. The rest of her life (she is four) has been with her grandparents, with or without her mom around, depending on sobriety/incarceration. I know inter-family adoption is "easier" legally speaking, but that will be a lot of shuffling around for this kid so I'm assuming therapy is a likely need. I also would cut down on the amount of access addicted bio-mom has to her, since I think she adds a lot of chaos and uncertainty that kid doesn't need. Right now we're in limbo, so I'm trying to learn what I can and be prepared just in case.