Social Media Etiquette for Homewreckers
July 7, 2014 3:22 PM Subscribe
How long should one wait before indirectly notifying a recent ex via social media that they are in a new relationship? Is this even a thing?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (31 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Help me settle a discussion with my boyfriend regarding the appropriate amount of time to wait before indirectly notifying an ex that you have moved on.
I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for about 3 months now. We have had a long history and were in a relationship with each other a few years back. Since then we have seen other people, but we kept in contact through out. Our recent reunion was timed shortly after he had ended things with an ex and this is causing some problems. While I was not in contact with him at the time he ended his relationship, it was partially fueled by lingering feelings towards me. His ex is aware of who I am, but we are in entirely different social circles. Now he has asked me to restrain from publicizing our relationship on his social media accounts (ie pictures, general mentioning, etc) for an 'appropriate' amount of time out of sensitivity to his ex.
The kind sentiment is somewhat in the right place, but I also am not wild about censoring my life. I think the appropriate amount of time has passed. He thinks it is too soon- although I suspect his judgement is clouded by guilt and not wanting confrontation.
How many months is reasonable? Anyone out there have advice for the kindest way to deal with predicaments like this?