How do musicians actually find other musicians in this crazy modern super-connected world?
Especially in the big city?
So, it has been almost a year since I posted this anxiety-ridden tirade
...In a nutshell, I am in a much better headspace and have been ready to get out and get playing (bass) in the real world. The problem is after several months I am having trouble breaking into the jam scene.
I'm in Toronto, a city not far from reaching 3 million, yet I am having trouble finding other musicians to play with.
What I've tried to far:
- Craigslist has bombed hard for me...I've received no responses to my ads, and ads I have responded to have not responded back to me.
Kijiji, which is Canada's Craigslist, has not fared much better, the only responses i've gotten are invitations to pay-to-play 'talent shows' (yeah, right).
Bandmix looked promising, but then I found out you need to upgrade to premium (pay) in order to connect with other musicians. Ugh.
- I've been to a few just to check them out...I should admit I haven't been invited onstage yet but I have socialized...so far these things seem really clique-y, and all the players
I've met are already committed and do not seem interested in casual jamming...(jeez, I'm making it sound like the singles dating scene).
- I do know a few players...they are pretty pro. I have reached out, "hey, you wanna jam sometime?" but they're too busy. I've also asked if they know anyone, but to no avail.
So on to my questions:
A) Specific to Toronto, is there a best kept secret musicians-seeking-musicians site or something? Where do all the amateur-but-genuinely-serious players hang out in this city? Maybe there are some truly open (and open-minded) non-ageist jams I am unaware of.
and B) In general, any out-of-the-box ideas on how to connect with like-minded musicians? I wish there was something like Tinder for bandmate seekers.
I just want to play out..sucks being just me and my bass.