How to liven a get-together with a Davey Downer
July 2, 2014 2:36 PM Subscribe
I'll be attending a get-together with family, including a Davey Downer who always inserts her tales of woe and misery into conversations. We all like her, but she can bring a conversation from lively to quiet in a few short phrases. How do you keep such gatherings more upbeat, while including someone whose only input seems to be personal tales of misery?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (14 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I'm sure she has happiness in her life, and she seems to be in a relatively good place, but she keeps bringing up past sadness and pain, as well as her current issues. She seems to be happily married with friends, and she's not a shut-in, so it's not a case of only knowing her personal miseries. And her comments are vaguely topical, but I worry that trying to help her find the positive in every sad comment will only further focus on her sorrows, while taking us farther from the prior topic.