How do I deal with my crush at a cafe?
July 1, 2014 6:08 PM Subscribe
I'm not sure how to say this without sounding like a 13 year old but I'm in love with a guy who frequents the same cafe as I do but haven't met. I dont know how to deal with it.
posted by bubbletea54 to Human Relations (18 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Ok, so for the past couple of months I've been frequenting a particular cafe to do my college work since it has a nice atmosphere and began to notice a guy who's always present there. I never realized I actually liked him until one night whenI came back from the cafe and started thinking about him all the time.
When I told my friends about it they started laughing at me and said things like "you haven't even spoken to him" "you don't even know his name, blah blah blah". One of them even decided to come along just to see him and told me that I deserve better and that if she had to rate his face out of 10 it would be 2. Despite all these comments, I still feel totally in love with him and the more I see him, the more handsome he seems. I guess the reasons why I felt so attracted to him is his solitary and introverted character and the way he's so committed to his studies. The rest of the people who go there tend to be socializing with friends or working in groups and rarely do you see students working alone.
Perhaps he feels the same way about me because I tend stay there for long hours alone and would sometimes catch him staring at me through the glass walls as he leaves the cafe for a while or as he stands near the counter.
Though once, when he arrived there late during a crowded time, he started scanning the place for an empty table and ended up sitting outside under the sun despite the empty table right next to mine so I really cant tell what he thinks of me.
I'm really not sure what to do anymore; I reached the point where I would go there just to see him and would end up feeling very down when he doesnt show up. My friends tell me to approach him but I guess im too shy or afraid that he would react in a disinterested way which would make me feel rejected and avoid going there altogether.
Oh, and if it makes a difference, I'm in my early 20's, weigh around 60 kgs and have a baby face. He looks almost the same age.