How do I get better at / get over anxiety making small decisions?
July 1, 2014 11:35 AM Subscribe
I agonize over making small decisions (what should I eat for lunch, should I start a new series or re watch an old favorite). When information is available I will spend an hour or so researching before I decide (Yelp). When information is not available I will put off the decision. It's getting worse and I'm unhappy living life paralyzed.
posted by puertosurf to Human Relations (15 answers total) 27 users marked this as a favorite
Once I make a decision, I don't normally second guess myself or regret it. Even if it turns out wrong I have a pretty healthy ability to shrug it off. I am okay with my decision making process for big important decisions - I think deliberating works quite well and have been happy with my major decisions so far. I obviously also feel anxiety when making decisions for groups like when I plan events, but I'm okay with that as that is a fairly common anxiety and easy to deal with. I'm struggling with decisions made for myself. I didn't have problems making small decisions growing up. I think this has been caused by 1. My job is to analyze tons of data and make recommendations, and I enjoy my job but it has obviously changed me 2. The advent of the web and the ability to Google and Yelp things. When I Googled this, results were all about making big decisions, or about how to address the guilt/anxiety afterwards, so neither advice applies. Also, I probably have some minor anxiety disorder. In my teens I used to have a lot of "what if" anxiety - i.e. my boyfriend left an hour ago and was supposed to call me, what if he got into a car accident, omg tears and panic - but I learned to meditate and have stopped my pointless anxiety about what ifs.