Please help me not go crazy with worry about my wife's health.
June 30, 2014 9:38 AM Subscribe
My wife's been experiencing vertigo, dizziness and nausea for almost a week. I'm concerned; she says it's almost certainly going to go away soon. I'm extremely anxious when it comes to her health. I'm looking for reassurances or any other help to clear my mind so I can support her, as well as any ideas on what this could be.
posted by Sternmeyer to Health & Fitness (24 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Last Tuesday my wife started experiencing some dizziness that came and went during the day. The next day, she was fully ill, barely able to sip water or Gatorade, complaining of being hot despite her skin being cold and clammy, and essentially confined to her bed because she couldn't stand up without falling over. By Thursday it was impossible to keep even sips of fluid down. Friday I insisted she go to a clinic to see a doctor as our family doctor was closed for the long weekend here in Canada. That doctor told her it was likely gastroenteritis and prescribed Ondansetron, an anti-nausea drug. This didn't seem to help her any.
Yesterday she was pale, unable to stand, freezing cold to the touch but reported feeling very hot. We went to emergency where the medical student immediately started talking about CT scans and tumours and things. Not very reassuring. The attending had a different idea and said she was ridiculously dehydrated and her "lights" were terrible; I don't know what that means. Being as she hadn't drank a damn thing since Thursday morning I had to agree on the dehydration. He put her on a saline IV, along with diphenhydramine, lorazepam, and droperidol. My wife more or less fell asleep immediately and slept for two hours, and when she woke up she felt much better.
The attending told her this problem was probably something to do with her inner ear without any specifics. However he gave us no prognosis or timeline or guidance for further treatment other than that we should check in with our family doctor when he is back. She walked out on her own power and for the first time since Tuesday evening she was able to eat and drink. She received a prescription for betahistine, an antivertigo drug. This has helped significantly, and she's able to eat and drink this morning, but she still reports feeling off. In her own words "it feels like my head isn't properly attached to my neck".
Right now we're focusing on keeping her fed and hydrated, but she is still feeling dizzy and experiencing vertigo, and it is keeping her mostly in bed. I've had to edit this post now because she is in the bathroom vomiting again, and we can't see our doctor until Friday. So now I'm concerned because she isn't getting better, we can't go see a doctor until Friday, and what the hell could this possibly be and will she ever get better and aaaughhh. I'm quite literally on the verge of tears and puking with worry.
Basically I am a person who doesn't deal well with illness in loved ones and I'm terrified that she won't get better. I come from a family with terrible medical history; all my grandparents died before 65 and I have aunts and uncles dead before 50 from cancers and other conditions. Hell just last week Wednesday my aunt died as a result of the effects of kidney cancer, and her husband, my uncle, received his diagnosis of inoperable lung cancer only two weeks before that. When someone gets sick I immediately feel like they are going to die. I know this is not a realistic, effective response but after seeing so many relatives die in hospital it is completely ingrained into me.
I feel like a big baby so I don't speak to her about this, because she doesn't need my stress, but what the heck could this be and how can I deal with this? I've had gastroenteritis before and so has she, and this isn't like anything we've experienced there, being as there is no diarrhea, only vomiting and vertigo. I just don't know what to think or do to help her, and I know that my being stressed and anxious is not helping any. I can't even put this question together very coherently, I am so worried.