How did you move in with your SO when you worked opposing schedules?
June 29, 2014 11:50 AM Subscribe
I work days, he works nights. We both like to sleep. And now we want to move in together. How do we make this work?
posted by genmonster to Human Relations (13 answers total)
My boyfriend and I are at the point where we kind of want to move in together, but we're not sure if it will work with our schedules. He works 7:30 pm to 7:30 am 3-4 nights per week (some weekend nights as well). I'll be working more 7 am to 5 or 6 pm, with probably some weekend days and some evenings. I would be moving into his house, which is in a great neighborhood but a tiny 2 bedroom/1 bath with NO soundproofing. Even living alone, he really struggles to get enough sleep. I'm quiet, but not, like, a totally silent ninja. He may get promoted to days at some unknown point in the future, but nothing is definite.
So far we have thought of building a little freestanding structure in the yard to use as a quiet getaway for the person who needs to sleep (not sure how getting a permit from the city would go in that case), or even buying an RV and using that. The RV has the advantage of being resalable and in my name while the house is owned by my boyfriend. PLus, we could use it to go on vacation. We both have well paying jobs but are definitely not interested in buying another house together because we're not wanting that level of financial codependency- at least not before we know we can share the same space.
Any other creative solutions I'm not thinking of? How have other couples done this? Am I crazy for thinking about dropping $50k on an RV to park in my boyfriend's yard?