I would really appreciate some career and life advice
June 29, 2014 9:09 AM Subscribe
At the moment, I'm feeling at a loose end and really direction-less. I don't know what I want to do with my life and it's making me feel really depressed. I have no short or long term goals. I'm in the process of being referred for CBT and have taken up running to treat the depression.
posted by fallingleaves to Human Relations (7 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
As soon as I get interested in something I lose interest. I'm lazy and I get bored really easily, this stops me from getting better at things I enjoy like guitar. I get to a certain level of skill then, plateau and lose have the motivation to progress. It feels like I've been depressed and unsatisfied on and off for most of my young adult life.
I graduated last year with a degree in Film Production, I lost interest in the subject in my second year but stuck with it because of sunk cost and not knowing what else I wanted to do. I did pick up a few things from it but have no real interest in filmmaking as a career. I only studied it because I couldn't think of anything else I wanted to study when I was 18 and I had a vague interest in the subject.
Here I am a year later, I have no idea what I want to do as a career other than the vague concept of wanting to do something that helps others. Here are the things I'm interested in/care about: Sociology, Psychology, Gender Studies, Politics, Philosophy, Music and Feminism. I've never studied any of these academically or done anything other than read about and discuss them. I would like to study them but I don't have the money to go back to school and won't be given any more loans even if I wanted to (student loans company in the UK). I'd maybe do a masters but my undergrad isn't relevant to any of the above subjects and I lack the formal foundational knowledge/study. I also don't want to commit years of my life to a subject that I might potentially lose interest in just like film.
Most of my work experience has been retail which I don't enjoy, so at least I can rule that out as a career.
I read a lot of advice online and I know that things like volunteering would be good for me, I researched local opportunities but couldn't find anything that actually interested me. My town isn't that small but it seems like there's nothing here. I just feel so trapped and claustrophobic, I want to get and do things - travel and see the world. But I'm just so afraid. I spend a lot of time in my bedroom alone. I have very few friends and even the ones I do have I never see because they are busy or have their own lives.
I know already some of the things I need to do to make my life better like being more social, making new friends, getting out of my comfort zone, faking it till I make it, volunteering, travelling, exercise, mindfulness meditation but it doesn't really seem to make any difference if I don't have the motivation and a concrete place to start.
What can I do to get out of this rut? I don't want to feel so lost any more.