Stranger in a strange land
June 26, 2014 3:37 PM Subscribe
I am lonely and alone in a different country. How can I be okay with being alone?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (13 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I am doing a rotation for six months in a very poor country. All of my coworkers are incredibly kind and great, but there is a language and culture barrier. I am also a young single woman, (here most young women are married and maybe 20% of them work), and very obviously of a different race. A lot of people will yell "foreigner" if I walk around. The majority of the time, I am in a small compound where I have an apartment or at the office. I don't have a car and I am not allowed to take public taxis or buses for safety reasons. I have a roommate but we do not speak the same language. She is nice enough but not a friend.
I am lonely. I don't know any other expats (there are some here, but I don't know how to make friends saying "hey we are both expats let us expat together"). I don't have internet at home. I am keeping in touch with my friends and family pretty well, but at home, I live in the big city with my partner, family, friends, bars, restaurants, a metro, and so on. I am reading a lot because I love books. But I am lonely on an existential level and I don't know how to deal with it cognitively.
I know I am lonely because I am alone. I am doing my best to get out, go to cultural things and restaurants and so on when I can, going out with my coworkers, but 5-6 nights a week I am alone and trapped on the compound and lonely. How do I start being okay with being alone and finding some support within myself for the next five months?