Having difficulty figuring out my sexuality, what can I do?
June 25, 2014 9:03 PM Subscribe
So i've been struggling with the notion that I might be gay, i've never been with a guy before, and have always had an attraction in women, however, I am a little bit shy around girls, which leads me to think I might be gay. What can I do?!
posted by wak5700 to Human Relations (3 answers total)
Hey guys, ok so i've always been a little bit shy around girls, but more and more so I haven't had the great luck that I would hope to be having with them. I feel I am a pretty genuinely good looking guy, I'm not ugly by all means (or at least I don't think so), but for some reason, I am shy around girls, and definitely do have trouble getting things started with a girl that I actually really do like.
So I get confused/mixed up, because I am shy with girls, and I have struggled with the fact that maybe I am gay, and that is why I find it so challenging some times. I could never imagine being with a guy, or having any type of sexual encounter with one. But then I do get this creeping feeling of wanting to try to kiss a friend or something ridiculous like that. I don't think I could actually, it'd be way too much.
So how can I become more confident with women so that I don't think I'm gay, or what is the best draw. I had a breakup with someone that I actually and truly loved, and was definitely completely heartbroken about. I haven't been able to commit to anyone since really, or have wanted to commit, and honestly it has been a little bit difficult making myself feel vulnerable again and actually liking them (more so than on a superficial) level. A deeper love.
It's hard to put myself out there for women, for fear of being hurt again I guess. However I am a good looking guy and I want a sexy woman!
Thoughts/Opinions? Thank you so much for your help everyone.
This post was deleted for the following reason: This doesn't sound like you are gay at all, but having trouble interacting with women, and kind of talks about being gay in a disrespectful way. Maybe try again next week without all the mentions of gayness? -- mathowie