how can I support a close friend with a terminal illness
June 25, 2014 8:17 AM Subscribe
A close, long time friend just got the C word from his doctor. This is not a good prognosis, it's perhaps weeks/months to live. He and his family are more than likely going through various stages of fear and emotional paralysis, just my assumption as I've yet to speak with them personally, just got the news. How can I best support them from a distance?
posted by diode to Human Relations (21 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I don't know that there is some set of rules you can follow to help people in this other than lending your emotional support and keeping your own beliefs, phobias and attachments about dying solidly in the background. If there are sites that might help me have a clue about this, that would be helpful.
I hope to go see them soon. My friend's been facing the potential for this turn of events for the past year, now it's looking much more real that he's on the air strip taxiing unexpectedly towards his end. He is more than likely experiencing various physical symptoms and emotional states related to this sudden turn of events. His family is facing a crisis and emotional storm relating to his passing, dealing with his physical decline and the events that would follow.
What can I do to help them given they are half a state away and I will see them probably for a short visit?