How do you balance graduate school and raising a kid?
June 23, 2014 10:15 AM Subscribe
I will be starting a highly ranked MBA program in August with a full ride. I already have one graduate degree, but this time I have an added degree of difficulty: I am now a mom. Does anyone have advice for balancing going back to school with the needs of a three year old?
posted by Alison to Human Relations (12 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I’ll be going to school full time and working 10 hours a week to keep a foothold in my current, growing company. Attending school full time is a requirement for me to go for free. On top of that, my scholarships come with high expectations for leadership, good grades, and technical expertise. I’m game for all of this due to the high potential for long-term payoff, but I want to set good boundaries between school time and family time because either one by itself has the potential to gobble up all my free time.
We’ve had a taste of what is coming up with me doing test-prep and school applications for two months this past winter. My spouse was extremely supportive and my daughter was able to cope with less time with me. Still, it is hard at times especially when my daughter wants my attention and I need to focus on my work. Last night I wanted to finish my accounting prep, but I stopped so that I could draw my daughter a treasure map. That's fine for now, but would probably be pretty stressful during finals week.
I’m going to have better resources starting in the fall, namely a quiet place to study outside of my house, but I know it’s going to hurt my heart a little to be together with my family less. I’m still going to be doing preschool pick-up and drop-off and the plan is to schedule one weekday afternoon and one weekend morning for my daughter and I to be together and to give my husband a break. Otherwise, I’m not sure how to draw the line where my work/school day ends and our family time begins.
Have you done something like this before? How did you maintain the balance between being goal-focused and meeting your family’s needs? Any advice on chores or splitting childcare? (I think my daughter would love to be raised by the iPad for the next two years, but we’re not going to do that.) What are some good ways to make sure that my husband feels loved and appreciated, especially because he is stepping up so much?
As it is, I'm going to be in for some early mornings and calling in every friend and family favor I have.