Advice about a poor body image and low self-esteem
June 22, 2014 4:50 PM Subscribe
As I am now in a relationship and have some money, I have been looking at taking mixed martial arts classes and/or kickboxing classes, but I feel compelled to take these classes regardless of whether nor not I like them.
posted by 8LeggedFriend to Society & Culture (48 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
Generally my interests are writing, reading, photography, politics, taking care of exotic spiders, computers, etc., hence fitness classes and what could be seen as aggressive activities are really not within my usual comfort zone. I don't really know if a martial arts class is something I would like.
Nevertheless I would like to be more active and be in better shape, but what stresses me out is I feel compelled to do this kind of thing; it might make my girlfriend find me more attractive, and it might make me more respected by male co-workers and, well, males in general.
One of my friend's sons is a bodybuilder and he looks amazing, and I am frequently the target of unwanted and hostile behavior by male co-workers, much like I was in elementary and high school. I have had to notify my supervisor that I have been threatened at work.
But I don't know if I can afford these classes (at least not right now) or if I will like these classes. I will admit that a large reason for my wanting to take these classes has more to do with feeling inadequate and weak than it does genuine interest.
Any advice on what I should do?
If I may ask two direct questions to male and female respondents…
Women: Would you find it more attractive if your current boyfriend/significant other was more muscular and athletic?
Men: How do you deal with predatory males and the feeling of inadequacy in comparison to your male counterparts?
Sorry if this is a really shallow thread.