He keeps on flaking.
June 21, 2014 9:45 AM Subscribe
Today he forgot about our date, and i am really upset because it shows that he doesn't like me right? I would love to see him more regularly, but it isn't happening. At the beginning of our relationship we were both a bit nervous and getting to know eachother, but the last couple of times have been great and we really connected on a deeper level, which is why i still want to see him, but not sure if it is worth it if he flakes. Details inside.
posted by aivilo91 to Human Relations (48 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I (23) met this guy (28) in february, and the chemistry is amazing and we get along well. He is really funny and also very interesting. We only see eachother once every 2 weeks though because either i've been away or he has, or things just didn't work out. But I realise that at the beginning i came across as too nice, i cooked for him and gave him a present and i was a bit nervous around him. I tend to fall into intense relationships, but I've realised this and have calmed down and have my own life and hobbies and friends, and also feel quite comfortable around him now!
But he has flaked on me three times, the first was a while ago because he had to pack and the second was around a month ago when he had to work. I had family over recently for 2 weeks and was with them the whole time so didn't see him for around a month, but last weekend we did see each other and had the best date, we really bonded and i saw his vulnerable side and he saw mine. I asked him how he feels about me and he said he takes a long time to fall in love but that he prioritises me above anybody else and always wants to see me over his friends and other people, and that i'm beautiful and he thinks we are almost in a relationship and that he likes me more every time. I felt like this was an honest answer because he had to think about it and got a bit embarrassed.
Today he actually completely forgot that we even had a date, even though last week he said he can finally start seeing me more regularly and asked to see me today. I'm trying not to blame him, as i realise that he has been a bit depressed about his life, where he is going in life etc and has been thinking about that a lot as he wants to leave his job, but it made me so upset that he forgot, and i told him that i feel upset and need to think about things now. He said that if i feel this way then what is the point.
I am really not sure what to do about this. We are going to an event next week, that i've been really excited about for a while and he knows this. I feel like he thinks i am always available for him, and always forgive him and he takes advantage of that, but i am not sure and can't see this situation clearly. I know he likes me, but not sure how much and if it is worth going out with him.
Surely he should want to be with me much more than a couple of times a month?
Should i go to this event with him and after that painfully just move on, or should i wait and see if things do improve? We haven't slept with eachother btw, Thank you in advance!