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June 19, 2014 7:05 PM Subscribe
How can I as a poor person make myself less scary to a potential partner who has gainful employment and a career?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (28 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
So I’m going through the breakup of the longest relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m 38, I have a bachelor’s degree, probably going to go for a master’s. I’m an occasional copy editor and a transcriptionist with one of the best transcription companies out there, the latter of which is my main source of income. While I like my job and it’s great for now (which I’ll get into a bit), it’s not exactly gainful employment. I probably make only $10.00/hour at the end of the day after taxes. And did I mention that I’m 38?
The breakup…you know. We’d had problems for a long time, he went on a month long trip, broke up with me when he got back. We’d been together 4 years. He was significantly younger than me—he just turned 30. I’ll save the gory details for another day or question, perhaps. This happened a couple days ago.
I need to work on some things. One of those things is making a living. We didn’t break up for financial reasons, but because of my age I think it’s not as socially acceptable to be poor.
Going forward, I’m lucky in that I don’t have a too hard a time attracting men, but when it comes to being actual dating material or maybe someday marriage material, I’m not your gal. I’m poor. I’ve got a mountain of student loan debt. I prefer working for myself and I’m lucky that I’ve got the job I have, because I don’t know what else I’d be doing right now. I’m not one working under people or in groups. I have always been the type that works best alone. Since childhood. I learn best alone, I work best alone. I’m a rank introvert. This is why, despite my student loan debt, I’m going to go ahead and get a master’s—if I could do some manual labor work for the rest of my life, I’d seriously consider it, but most jobs that I’m best suited for require a bit more education. Just the way things are anymore.
I’m probably going to be poor for a while. My question is this: what can I do as a poor person to make myself more financially stable besides just keeping up with the bills and building a nest egg? Or is that it, really? I know you’re not really supposed to save money when you owe money, but it seems like a good idea to have at least a nest egg of some sort. Really could have used one now. Anyway, I get along best with people from a middle class background for a number of reasons (mostly education and interests), but I don’t have much to offer to the equation financially. I know that this will be a deal breaker to a lot of people and I’m okay with that. How can I as a poor person make myself less scary to a potential partner who has gainful employment and a career?
Thanks in advance, everyone.